Alright, let’s talk strategy. You’re here because you’ve got your eyes on someone special, and you’re thinking, “How do I get them to like me?” Well, fear not, little sibling. Big Bro’s got your back with some psychological tips that’ll give you a solid edge. Think of these as your cheat codes to charm city—no manipulation, just smart moves to make you stand out.
Let’s dive into these eight tricks. Oh, and I’ll sprinkle in some of my own (totally true) experiences to keep it real.
1. Stop Asking “Can I?” Questions
Here’s the deal: asking “Can I?” is like giving someone a red button labeled “Say No”—and they’re going to press it. Instead, you take the lead. Don’t say, “Can I have your number?” Instead, go with, “Put your number in my phone.” Not pushy, just confident.
Once, I used this tactic at a coffee shop. I’d been chatting with this amazing barista, and instead of, “Can I take you out sometime?” I went with, “We need to grab a coffee when you’re not working. What’s your number?” Guess what? Worked like a charm. (Though she did insist we meet somewhere other than her workplace… fair.)
2. The Forehead Trick
Ever felt jittery around someone ridiculously attractive? That’s dopamine, my friend. It’s natural, but you need to channel it. The trick? Look at the middle of their forehead—not their eyes. Why? It gives you an air of calm and makes them feel like they’re under your microscope.
I did this on a date once, and she later told me, “You have such an intense gaze.” Meanwhile, I was secretly thinking, Wow, your forehead’s so symmetrical.
3. First and Last Impressions Matter Most
You’re sweating the small talk, but honestly, they’ll only remember two things: how you started and how you ended the conversation. Here’s the hack:
- First Impression: Wear something sharp. Swap the hoodie for a polo or a structured shirt. Clothes are the first thing people notice—might as well make it count.
- Last Impression: Leave them smiling. Pay a genuine compliment and end the interaction on a high note, like, “You’re hilarious. I’d better head out before I’m late.”
Pro Tip: Don’t overthink your face. My buddy Mike swears by “smiling like you just heard the perfect dad joke.” Works every time.
4. Use the Power of Nodding
Here’s a fun fact: nodding while you talk makes people agree with you. It’s called the Chameleon Effect. Humans love to mimic each other, so if you’re nodding, they’ll subconsciously start nodding too.
Try this the next time you want to ask someone a question at the gym: “Do you have a second to chat?” while nodding. When I needed assistance adjusting a squat rack, I once did this, and in addition to receiving assistance, we ended up talking about music selections for my workout.
5. Dress the Part (Enclothed Cognition)
Clothes don’t just make the man; they make the man believe he’s the man. It’s science. Wear gym gear that fits well, and you’ll feel like an athlete. Wear tailored pants, and suddenly you’re a high-status icon. Confidence comes from within, but a great outfit helps it shine.
I’ll never forget my first date with my now-partner. I wore a crisp button-up shirt (freshly ironed, mind you), and she later admitted, “That shirt’s why I agreed to a second date.” Lesson learned: ditch the graphic tees.
6. Master the Art of Flirty Banter
Doubt their capabilities—playfully, of course. It’s a surefire way to spark some friendly competition. For example:
- “I don’t think you could handle a hike up [insert local trail].”
- “Skydiving? Sure, but can you handle scuba diving?”
Once, I told a friend, “You’d never survive karaoke night with me.” She dragged me to the nearest bar and belted out Livin’ on a Prayer. We’ve been close ever since.
7. Get Them to Say “No”
Flip the script. Instead of chasing a “yes,” aim for a “no.” It makes people feel safe and in control. For example:
- “Would you be opposed to grabbing coffee?”
- “Have you given up on [fun activity]?”
I once texted, “Would it be terrible if we grabbed dinner?” The reply? “Not at all!” Boom. Dinner plans secured.
8. Appeal to the Three Brains
Here’s where it gets scientific. We’ve got three brains: the logical brain, the emotional brain, and the survival brain. To make yourself unforgettable, tap into these three primal instincts:
- Food: Scents like vanilla and pumpkin are scientifically shown to create positive feelings. No joke, I once wore a vanilla-scented cologne and got compliments like, “You smell like cookies. I love it.”
- Attraction: Show a little skin without going overboard. Leave a couple of buttons undone or roll up your sleeves. Subtle, yet effective.
- Danger: Be capable of controlled strength. Whether it’s learning self-defense or mastering a sport, it’s attractive when you’re in control of your own power.
There you have it—Big Brother’s eight tried-and-true tips for getting someone to like you. Remember, these aren’t tricks to fool someone; they’re ways to present your best self. Now go out there, give it a shot, and let me know how it goes. And if all else fails, just bake them cookies. Nobody can resist cookies.
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