Hey guys, I’m Melanie and this article is for all the men out there. What I need you to do for me as you read this article is to really focus. Read this with your heart, not just your mind. I know I’m asking a lot, but please give me that much. Take it in fully before jumping to conclusions.
Here we go.
You Matter
The first thing I want you to know is that you matter.
You are important—not only to me, the person writing this article, but to the people in your life. You matter to your wife, your mother, your daughter, your son. You matter to your coworkers, your friends, and the world around you.
Contrary to what we might see on social media, not every woman is bashing men. Not every woman thinks the world would be better without you. That narrative is not a representation of all of us. I promise you that.
I need you to reclaim your power and take care of yourself in a way that allows you to rise up and truly become the man you desire to be.
Build a Support Structure
When you’re feeling alone—when life gets hard, or you feel like the world is against you—don’t suffer in silence. Build a strong support structure around you.
Yes, you’re strong, capable, and resilient. But no one should endure life’s challenges alone. Prioritize creating a circle of support.
In building this support structure, surround yourself with men you admire and respect. These role models may not always be in your immediate environment, and that’s okay. You might need to seek them out online or through books, articles, or communities.
However, be discerning about the voices you allow into your space. Ask yourself:
- Is this the kind of man I’d like to become?
- Is this someone I’d want my son to emulate?
- Would my future self, 80 or 90 years down the line, be proud of this influence?
Don’t focus solely on outward success like wealth. Instead, look for deeper qualities—values, integrity, and how they treat others. Pay attention to how they treat people they don’t need anything from. That reveals true character.
If you didn’t have a father figure or role model growing up, take it upon yourself to father yourself. Parent yourself. Love and care for yourself in the ways you needed when you were younger.
Create a Safe World
If this is a man’s world, please make it a safe one—for everyone.
Hold yourself and your peers accountable. If someone in your circle mistreats others or brags about it, say something. Do something. Be the example of what a good man looks like.
Women love you, need you, and feel safe when they know they’re protected by you. You have more power than you realize to make this world better.
For Fathers
To the dads out there, understand the impact you have.
For your daughters, you’re the first example of what a man’s love should look like. Show her respect, security, and care—she’ll seek these qualities in her future partner.
For your sons, you’re their blueprint for manhood. They’ll learn how to treat others, handle challenges, and carry themselves by watching you.
Be the kind of man you’d be proud to see them grow into.
Embrace Growth
Don’t define yourself by labels like “good” or “bad.” Life is more nuanced than that. You’re human—a multifaceted individual capable of growth and change.
Give yourself the grace to learn and improve. Commit to becoming better. It’s a decision that requires discipline, consistency, and effort.
The Power of Discipline
Discipline in a man is transformative. It’s the bridge between where you are and where you want to be.
Discipline keeps you in control of your mind and body. It’s what allows you to create the life you envision for yourself and the people you care about.
Final Thoughts
Men, you matter more than you know. You are valued, needed, and capable of making a profound difference in your life, your family, and the world.
Take care of yourself. Build yourself up. And never forget how important you are.
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