Listen up, boys. You’ve probably noticed that women are the ones who hit the eject button on relationships more often than not—whether it’s breaking up or filing for divorce, they’ve got a finger hovering over the button like it’s a game show buzzer. Why is that? Plenty of reasons. But today, we’re diving into one you don’t hear much about: Women don’t have to work for the relationships they’re in.
Let me break it down for you. Women make men work for sex—it’s no free sample at Costco. Getting to that point can feel like trying to win a golden ticket to Willy Wonka’s Chocolate Factory. You’ve got to be attractive (and that’s not just about hitting the gym; I’m talking charisma, personality, the whole package), engage her emotions, show you’re genuinely interested, buy her dinners, and maybe even laugh at her jokes. It’s a process.
But here’s the kicker: men don’t make women work for relationships. Most guys are out here handing over their time, attention, commitment, and even their Netflix passwords like they’re hosting a clearance sale. It’s all part of trying to seal the deal, but in doing so, they surrender their role as gatekeepers of relationships.
And let me tell you, easy come, easy go is a rule of life. Anything handed to you on a silver platter is easy to toss aside. If a woman doesn’t have to put in effort, make sacrifices, or even sweat a little, she’s less likely to value the relationship. That’s not a knock on her—it’s just human nature.
Now, flip the script. A woman who has worked to secure a relationship? Who’s poured in time, energy, and maybe swallowed her pride once or twice? She’s way more likely to stick around when things get rocky. Why? Because she’s “pot committed,” as the poker players say. She’s already invested too much to walk away over something minor, like you leaving the toilet seat up (again).
The Problem
Most women don’t get the chance to become pot committed because most guys don’t require it. So what can you do differently?
Build Value In Your Relationship
Here’s the deal, bros: if you want a fulfilling relationship, you need a partner who really wants to be there. Not just someone who’s biding her time until the next shiny thing comes along. She needs to think you’re the best option she’s got—like the PS5 of boyfriends.
And here’s a truth bomb for you: people don’t value free stuff. It’s why a steak you paid $50 for tastes better than a hot dog from a street cart (even if that hot dog slaps). Relationships are no different. If she sees your commitment as something she had to work for—something “expensive”—she’ll treasure it.
This isn’t about being manipulative or playing games. It’s about recognizing that effort and investment go both ways. Women want men to invest before sex—it’s fair for men to want women to invest before commitment.
Catch and Release
Here’s how you make that happen: embrace the Catch and Release philosophy. Don’t zero in on one woman like she’s the only fish in the sea. Focus on building a life that’s attractive to many women. Work on your health, your finances, and your charisma. Learn to cook (trust me, homemade pasta is a game changer).
When women come into your orbit, engage with them. But don’t roll out the red carpet and hand over your heart after the first date. If she wants more than a casual connection, she’ll have to put in the work—just like you did to get her attention. It’s only fair, right?
Fishing Tales
Let me tell you about my buddy, Dave. He’s a fishing enthusiast (the metaphor works, I swear). One day, he catches this beautiful trout, but he’s just out there for sport, so he tosses it back. Lo and behold, a few minutes later, the same trout jumps back into his boat. True story (well, mostly true). The point is, the fish that wants to be in your boat is the one you keep.
And not every fish is worth the effort. Some will swim off, and that’s okay. Don’t get salty about it. Just keep fishing. The right one will come along—a fish that sees the value in your boat and wants to be there for the long haul.
The Takeaway
Relationships are about mutual investment. Don’t rob women of the chance to put in effort—they’ll value it more if they’ve had to work for it. And if a woman balks at the idea of making an effort? That’s your cue to move on.
Oh, and don’t let Disney fool you. It’s better on the boat than in the ocean, no matter what Sebastian the crab says. The ocean’s cold and full of sharks.
So, what do you think? Does this match your experience? Drop a comment below, share this with your buddy who needs to hear it, and keep fishing. The right catch is out there—just don’t forget to enjoy the process.
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