What They Don’t Tell You About Women

Alright, lock in boys. We’re about to go through the 10 harsh realities about women that most men figure out way too late, and even if you’re married trust me this some stuff you wanna see. No sugarcoating, no fluff—just the truth. If you’re the type to get offended easily, well, maybe go watch some cat videos today. Let’s dive in.

1. You’ll Be Used for What You Lead With

The truth is that a woman is evaluating you like a scout at the NFL draft whenever you engage with her. She will determine what you bring to the table and evaluate your strengths and weaknesses.

If you lead with your money, your fancy car, or that overpriced watch, guess what? You’ve just labeled yourself the “walking ATM.” That’s all you’re gonna be in her eyes. It’s like wearing a shirt that says, “Take my wallet, please.” I’ve seen it happen—my buddy Dave led with his Tesla and ended up with someone who only cared about her Instagram pics in it.

Instead, lead with something real. Show her who you are, not what you have. You’re not a billboard—you’re a person. And believe me, authenticity goes a long way.

2. A Woman Will Run Over You If You Let Her

If you don’t stand your ground, she’ll walk all over you, and she won’t even feel bad about it. Once she senses weakness, your attraction levels drop faster than my interest in kale smoothies.

Being clingy or scared to say no? That’s a one-way ticket to becoming her doormat. Women respect strength, and I’m not just talking about bench press numbers. It’s about emotional strength, decisiveness, and knowing when to draw the line.

Back in the day, weak men didn’t make it. They were left to fend for themselves while the strong ones led the pack. Times may have changed, but the instincts haven’t. If you don’t step up, she might take charge—and not in a fun way.

3. Nice Guys Usually Finish Last

Sorry, buddy, but it’s true. There are two big reasons why nice guys end up at the back of the line.

First, she’s not done with her “bad boy phase”. Yeah, she’ll keep chasing that leather-jacket-wearing guy who hasn’t paid his rent in months, thinking she can fix him. When she’s finally ready to settle down, she’ll look for a nice guy. But by then, she’s done with her wild days, and you’re her Plan B.

Second, nice guys have an image problem. If you’re too sweet, sensitive, or shy, women might see you as, well, boring. And let’s face it, being predictable is about as exciting as watching paint dry. Women want someone who can stand up for themselves, not a guy who apologizes when she bumps into him.

4. Most Women Lack Empathy for Men

Here’s a harsh truth: women aren’t great at understanding what men go through. Society’s been telling men to “man up” since forever, and guess what? It’s desensitized everyone—including women.

When a woman looks at you, she probably sees you as this unshakable rock. Your feelings? Nah, they don’t cross her mind unless you spell it out. And even then, don’t expect a tearful group hug.

5. Most Women Like Emotionally Unavailable Men

Let me guess—you’re thinking, Why do women always go for the guy who treats them like a part-time hobby? It’s not you; it’s biology.

People want what they can’t have, and emotionally unavailable guys are like the forbidden fruit of the dating world. Women are drawn to the challenge, the mystery, and the drama. I once had a friend, Maya, who was talking with this “mysterious guy” he constantly ignores her messages and calls when he only wants to see her… I’m sure you get the picture. She thought he was “deep.” Deep? I couldn’t say a word

6. A Woman Will Constantly Test You

Oh, she’s testing you—make no mistake about that. It’s like she’s running you through an obstacle course you didn’t sign up for. Why does she do it?

• To see if you’re compatible.
• To check if you’re trustworthy.
• To gauge your confidence.
• To figure out how much you’re into her.
• To see what she can get away with.

It’s like when my little sister used to push boundaries with our parents—testing curfews, grades, you name it. Except now, you’re the one being tested. Stay calm, stay firm, and don’t flinch.

7. The Main Thing All Women Want Is Security

No matter how independent she is, every woman wants to feel secure. That’s not just about money (though let’s be honest, financial stability doesn’t hurt). It’s about emotional, physical, and spiritual security too.

I had an ex who swore she didn’t need anyone to protect her—until there was a loud noise at 2 a.m., and suddenly I was the “security detail.” Point is, this instinct is hardwired. If you can make her feel safe, you’re already winning.

8. A Woman’s Physical Desirability Is Everything to Her

From a young age, society teaches women that their value is tied to their looks. Think about it—what do people say to little girls? “Aren’t you pretty?” or “Look at that cute dress!” It starts early and sticks around.

As a result, women often measure their worth by their physical appearance. And when they don’t feel attractive, it hits hard. That’s why industries like makeup and fashion make billions—because women are told they need to look perfect all the time.

9. Attention Is the Main Driving Factor for Most Women

Let’s not beat around the bush—attention is like currency for women. Whether it’s likes on Instagram, compliments from strangers, or just being noticed, attention fuels their sense of self-worth.

I’ve seen women post “casual” workout videos that look like they were edited by a Hollywood filmmaker. “Oh, just working on my fitness,” she says, while every dude in the comments is dropping fire emojis. Attention isn’t just nice—it’s necessary.

10. She Usually Won’t Match Your Sex Drive

Here’s one that sneaks up on you. In the beginning, it’s all fireworks, but give it a few months, and you’ll notice a shift. Her sex drive probably won’t keep up with yours.

Biologically, women equate sex with potential pregnancy (even if they’re on birth control), and that can make them less eager to jump in bed all the time. It’s not personal—it’s nature. So, adjust your expectations, or you’ll be in for some frustrating nights.

And there you have it—What They Don’t Tell You About Women. Take this wisdom, apply it, and remember: life’s a game, but you don’t have to play it blind. Until next time, stay sharp out there.