The Chaos of leadership

Being a king sounds glamorous, right? Thrones, crowns, the whole “my word is law” thing. But peel back the gold veneer, and you’ll see the true chaos of leadership. It’s a lonely, heavy crown to bear. A king doesn’t really have friends—only followers and foes. And if you think your office politics are rough, imagine having to wonder if someone’s buttering you up or planning to stab you in the back, literally.

Let’s dive into the complex, bittersweet truths of kingship and how they mirror the challenges we all face in life.

The Isolation of Power

Picture this: You’re at the top of your game, CEO of “Kingdom Inc.” (hey, I know this sounds stupid but it’s just for instance, humour me) Everyone wants a piece of you. Some flatter, some obey, and some secretly plot your downfall. But none of them—none—are truly your friends. Why? Because power creates a wall. People see the title, not the person.

I remember leading a project team once. Sure, I wasn’t wearing a crown (or maybe I was in spirit), but the pressure was real. Everyone looked to me for decisions, yet I could feel the whispers and doubts behind the smiles. The higher you climb, the lonelier it gets. Just one of the chaos of leadership every leader faces

Strength of a king

Being a leader isn’t just about calling the shots. It’s about surviving the chaos of expectations, egos, and conflicts. For kings, this means battlefields. For the rest of us, it’s just life—managing work deadlines, juggling relationships, or deciding what’s for dinner.

But here’s the thing: strength is essential. A king—or any leader—can’t afford to falter, even when the chaos is overwhelming. You might not have armies to command, but every time you navigate a family crisis or steer your career through rough waters, you’re embodying that strength.

Trust Issues and Betrayals

Trust is tricky when you’re in charge. Kings know this too well. The people closest to them—advisors, allies—can often be the biggest threats. And it’s not always malicious. Sometimes, even well-meaning folks give bad advice or fail when it matters most.

I once had a buddy recommend a “foolproof investment.” Turns out, it was as foolproof as leaving chocolate in the sun. I lost money, but more than that, I learned a lesson: trust is earned, not given. Whether you’re a king or just a guy trying to get by, it’s wise to keep one eye open.

Enemies at the Gate

France was always a thorn in the side of the English kings. The lesson? Threats don’t always come from where you expect.

In life, it’s not always “France” that is the enemy, (unless your evil boss is actually French). Sometimes, it’s a competitor, a misunderstanding, or even your own insecurities. The key is staying alert and adaptable.

The Moral Toll of Conflict

Kings often wage wars not because they want to, but because they have to. Yet, victory comes with a price—lives lost, consciences burdened. The same applies to life’s battles. Winning isn’t always as sweet as it seems when the cost is your peace of mind.

I once got into a heated argument with a close friend over something petty. I “won” the debate, but the rift it caused wasn’t worth it. Winning at any cost often leaves scars on everyone involved, including yourself.

The Illusion of Glory

A king’s glory often rests on the battlefield, but what’s the point of all that fame if it’s built on bloodshed? Glory is fleeting; wisdom and peace last longer.

There’s a reason people are drawn to those who achieve success without stepping on others. It’s not just about what you do—it’s about how you do it. Remember, nobody throws a parade for the guy who made it to the top by burning bridges.

The Hard Road to Peace

True peace isn’t just about laying down your weapons. It’s about finding clarity, making amends, and striving for understanding. For kings, this is a nearly impossible dream. For us, it’s a daily challenge but one worth pursuing.

One of the hardest things I’ve done is apologize first in an argument. I hated every second of it, but the peace that followed was worth swallowing my pride.

What This Means for Your Life

Being a king might not be in your job description (unless you’re secretly royalty, in which case, hit me up), but the lessons are universal. Life often mirrors the struggles of kingship:

• Isolation: Leadership or success can be lonely. Find your tribe—people who genuinely have your back.
• Strength in Chaos: Whether it’s life, work, or relationships, staying strong and steady is a skill worth mastering.
• Trust Wisely: Not everyone in your circle has your best interests at heart. Learn to read people and trust your gut.
• Peace Over Glory: Winning is great, but it’s nothing compared to finding real peace and fulfillment.

So, whether you’re ruling over a boardroom, a household, or just your own life, remember: leadership is about balance. Be strong, stay curious, and don’t lose sight of what truly matters. And if all else fails, maybe invest in a crown or whatever works for you—because every man deserves to feel like a king, even on their worst days.