Today, heheh I have a full course meal for you, and this might just change your life, let’s talk love. You know, that messy, beautiful, sometimes frustrating thing we all chase but never seem to figure out. Vox dropped an article a while back on what science still can’t explain about love, and honestly? It makes some solid points. But let’s break it down in a way that actually makes sense for you.
1. Your “Type” Isn’t a Guarantee
Ever make a list of what you think you want in a partner—funny, tall, good cook, maybe throws in a gym membership just for fun—only to find yourself completely obsessed with someone who is NONE of those things? Lol Yeah, turns out science backs that up. Attraction isn’t just a checklist; it’s chaotic, unpredictable, and sometimes completely illogical.
And honestly? That’s what makes it exciting. If love was just a math equation, we’d all be paired up like an Amazon algorithm. But no, love is WILD, and it doesn’t care about your preferences.
2. Love Makes You Dumb (But That’s the Point)
Science says being in love literally shuts off parts of your brain responsible for risk assessment. That means when you’re falling hard, you’re also making some of the worst decisions of your life—and somehow, evolution decided this was a good idea. Why? Because if we were all too logical about love, we’d probably never take the risk of committing to someone long-term. And I can attest to this too cuz sometimes I think to myself, “you dumb bastard, why are you ruining our life like this? And I have no response.
So if you’ve ever done something incredibly stupid for love (texting your ex, moving across the country for someone you barely know, believing “it’s different this time”), congratulations, bro. Your brain is doing exactly what it’s designed to do.
3. Red Flags Don’t Always Mean Run
Here’s a wild one—some of the best relationships started with what looked like major red flags. I’m talking about couples where one person was unemployed, or they had totally different life goals at first, or even—get this—where one person was supposed to be celibate (cough I used to be young cough).
But here’s the catch: those relationships worked out because both people were willing to work through the red flags. They didn’t just run at the first sign of trouble. They built something together. (Even if it looks stupid it’s their cute little stupid thing). Thats love
4. Happiness in a Relationship Is Built, Not Found
Now, this is the part no one tells you: long-term happiness in a relationship isn’t about finding the right person—it’s about building the right relationship.
Back in the day, arranged marriages were common, and couples went into them knowing happiness wasn’t guaranteed. They put in effort, adjusted, and made it work. Fast forward to today, and we’ve got a generation of people on dating apps swiping through hundreds of options, convinced that if they just find the “perfect” person, everything will magically fall into place. Spoiler: it won’t.
A good relationship isn’t about checking all the boxes—it’s about being willing to adapt, compromise, and grow together.
5. Stop Looking, Start Working
The biggest mistake people make today? Thinking that if a relationship isn’t making them happy right now, it’s time to bounce. Instead of working through issues, they just move on to the next option. It’s like playing with a basketball team and every time you take a shot and miss you say “shit this team is bad luck and find another team and repeat until you run through all the teams available lol stupid isn’t it?
Think about it: if you’re always searching for the next best thing, you never actually build anything. You’re just starting over again and again. The couples who last? They figure out how to be happy even when things aren’t perfect. They learn to communicate, to compromise, and—most importantly—to stop expecting their partner to be the sole provider of their happiness.
Final Thought: It’s on You, Bro
So here’s the deal: If you’re struggling in love, it might not be because you haven’t found the right person. It might be because you haven’t become the right person yet.
Flexibility, patience, and effort make relationships work—not just “finding the one.” So next time you’re feeling frustrated in love, ask yourself: Am I expecting happiness to come from my partner, or am I willing to build it with them?
Big difference, my man. Now go forth and be intentional with your love life.
Leave a Reply